Proverbs 15:18 "A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife."
The wrathful man seeks to please himself. He has a very bad temper that flares up quickly and easily. When he is around, his anger is like stoking up a fire. The Hebrew word for "stir" means "to grate (irritate, fret, vex, offend)." If he is not being pleased, everybody knows, and he expects them to bow to his expectations. He is not concerned with pleasing God, but is all about pleasing himself. This results in discord, dissension, and disputes that once started are impossible to stop (Prov. 17:14). His pride erects barriers between people and damages relationships (Prov. 18:19, 13:10).
On the other hand, the man slow to anger appeases the issues which could easily be turned into an argument. He quenches the fires of strife. Solomon describes this patient individual as being of great understanding (Prov. 14:29, Eccl. 7:8). This guy sees beyond his own expectations, and is able to remain calm, tranquil, and undisturbed in spite of one grating on him. He is not prideful. He is known for his wisdom and for being well advised (Prov. 13:10). He is a leader that sees problems as opportunities to improve and from which to learn. He is a peacemaker (Mat. 5:21). By the way, this guy is fulfilled too unlike the wrathful man who is seeking to please himself. Jesus said, "Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God." My friend Brad shared a great definition of "blessed" with me. It means to be "supremely happy."
Today, are you a pleaser or an appeaser? Do you instigate discord or bring peace where ever you go? Have you yielded your rights and expectations to the Lord? Is your love for the others covering a multitude of sins as God’s love does for us? When we seek our pleasure instead of God’s pleasure, we run into problems (Rev. 4:11). In the end, the pleaser is never appeased, but the appeaser is more than pleased.